In todays celebrity culture, there are so many people to look-up-to – TV, advertising and the Internet make it so easy to follow the high’s and low’s of a celebrity lifestyle, that many people try to emulate. I want to be like them society is crying.
The heros of yesteryear have not disappeared completely, but there is less news about the person trying to develop a cure for cancer than there is about David Beckhams new tattoo or Caroline Flacks romance with Harry Styles. But are these the real role-models that we should be looking up to? Should society be trying to copy them or should we be valuing ourself enough to stand and be who we are supposed to be?
In the world of business, the millionaire Dragons, Sir Alan or the comb-over legend that is Mr Trump as well as many others are the people that are looked up to inbusiness. But where are the approachable business leaders of today that we can get alongside of and learn from real hands on, 1-to-1 mentoring and coaching?
I am talking about the need for real guys and girls that are really making it and are prepared to spend time with you, showing you how they really make their money. The people spending time helping many other toachievemore in life. These are the role-models we need today.
The biggest problem that stops many many owner managers, self employed individuals or the unemployed, to become role-models in society or business, is that of real low self worth or self belief. It hinders their ability to really make it and end up just trudging through life.
Valuing yourself, your knowledge, and your story will give you the get up and go to make things happen – and not just for you.
Sam Walton, the US entrepreneur that founded the Wal-Mart was once quoted as saying Outstanding leaders go out of their way to boost the self-esteem of those they interact with. If people believe in themselves, it’s amazing what they can accomplish.I believe that everyone has the capacity to do this, including YOU.
StartBelievingIn Yourself – Quick Exercise
If you struggle with a sense of low self-esteem or believe that you have nothing to give or to be able to position yourself as a leader or role-model in any area of life, complete this simple exercise to help you develop a high level of self-belief.Get out a notepad or three sheets of paper and use each page for notes that you are going to make on these three areas:
1. Yourself - If you are in business today you are successful. You are working to make a living for yourself. You are master of your own destiny. Be proud of the fact that you took a decision to risk starting your own business and that you can say today Im still here. But business is just one area. What about the rest of your life where you have achieved things and overcome adversity?
Action: At the top of the first sheet of paper, write the words My Achievements – then make a list of everything in life that you have achieved. Swimming badges to PHDs, bringing up children and doing a first aid course. Think about everything and write it down.
2. Your Knowledge - You know stuff – things that many other people dont. Yet there are probably 100s if not 1,000s of people that want to know what you do. They want to learn how to fix problems they have in their lives. They want to learn how to satisfy desires or needs. And you can help.
Action: Make a list on the second sheet of paper, under the title of Things I Can Do, of all the things you know how to do. Things that you can apply knowledge to. I would be able to write things like, play the guitar, ride a bike, use Photoshop, speak in front of large groups of people, market a business properly. These should all be driven out of the knowledge you have in areas of your life. Things that you have learned to do, or find naturally able to do. It might be difficult at first, but try. Once the lists starts to shape it will just flow.
3. Your Story - This is the glue that hold it all together and the nectar that will attract people to you. Unless you have lived in a cupboard all your life, you will have experienced love and heartache, times of good health and poor health, gain and loss – and so much more. People are emotional beings, some more than others. It is the expression of emotion through story telling that will keep people engaged. Mix this into experiences of the lessons from learning all the things you wrote on the second sheet of paper and you have something that people will be able to identify with and want to know more about.
Action: Think about where you are now in life. What decisions did you make or what circumstances have led you to this place you find yourself in now? On the last page write at the top My Story and start making bullet point notes about milestones in your life that were your life-changing moments. Think about why you started your business in the first place. Think about why you do what you are doing now. Think about what you did in the past and why you did it, and why you dot do it now.
Once you have done this, read it all aloud to yourself. Speak it into yourself.Start with page three. Tell yourself your story. Move onto the next page and then speak aloud all the things that you are able to to and potentially be able to share your experiences of these things with others. Finally, read page one aloud. This person has achieved so much in life and this person that is able to share their story, knowledge and experiences in life with others to help them achieve much more for their lives.